"Once upon a time... in- let's call this fairy tale kingdom- YOULAND. Now, YOULAND had a bunch of unhappy, stubborn, prickly crabs all stuck in one barrel and basically a cloud of grumpiness hovering over it.
One day, a bold, open minded crab (let's call our intrepid knight in crustacean armor.. YOU) decides to change your lot in life and reach for that impossible dream of freedom. So YOU gather up your strength and starts to climb up the barrel. It's a long journey. A hard journey. But you've got what it takes. Hip! Hip! HOORAY!
But as crabs are wont to do (ie being crabby), they grab and latch onto anything that moves or DEVIATES from the unhappy norm. So now you have one crab scrabbling to get out of the barrel and make a difference (YOU) while another has latched on like a parasite and doesn't do ANYTHING to help out.
Now maybe this crab, YOU, is strong enough to support one slacker crab. After all you're tough and determined.
But then ANOTHER and then ANOTHER latches on. Soon enough, and no matter how strong and determined that crab is, the sheer weight of all these other lazy, negative crabs will bring down the first one, YOU. And now instead of having one happy crab (YOU) roaming free out in the world, YOULAND still has one barrel full of unhappy crabs who think it's entirely normal to be mediocre, unhappy, and ignorant.
Thus, the term: Crabs in a Barrel."
This thought was brought on by a study that was recently done at Harvard. Long story short, it talks about how happy people generally have happy friends.
A lot of guys that get into the Community have had unhappy lives and generally have dissatisfying personal relationships or even have a hard time making friends. It's a sad fact, but if you're trying to change yourself, then only change yourself. You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped. It's like why in an airplane that's going down and oxygen masks pop out, a mother is supposed to put it on herself FIRST and then her child.
It seems cruel on first inspection, but if she didn't make sure SHE was conscious and capable, then she couldn't do the same for her child and then both of them end up unconscious or worse. Same goes with pick up, help yourself first and then lead by example. If they want help, then you help, but don't rub it in.
The other part of the coin is that as you become more successful, it breeds jealousy and envy. When your entire social circle is already full of negative thinking, unchanging, obstinate friends and they see you change, they're going to try to prevent it and bring you down like the Crabs in the Barrel Syndrome. Don't let that happen.
It's mean, but sometimes you have to let these kind of friends go. They aren't helping you or, worse, they're actually harming you with their negative pessimism and defeatist thoughts.
Surround yourself with people that you want to help, who help you, and generally make each other better.
Not with people who are satisified with the status quo or people who are cynical. As I've said before, cynicism is what passes for insight in mediocre minds.
Love the song and the video. Stills in a video? GENIUS! The girl is SUPER CUTE haha. Time for me to find myself a white girl.
From Angry Asian Man:
More music from Big Phony, this time in the form of a music video: "Girls Like You Don't Go For Guys Like Me," directed b Charles Yi. Shot around Los Angeles on a very cheap budget and entirely in stills, it's a charming little video starring Chris Dinh and Olivia Evita. And it's a cool song. To hear more from Big Phony, visit his website here and his MySpace page here.
As some of you know, I am looking for work and this email came into my inbox today.
Job offer
Hello, Johnson Hong
We have reviewed your resume at website CareerBuilder.com and are eager to inform you that we are ready to offer you a vacant position of the "Financial Agent".
We looked through your skills and became sure that you correspond to our requirements. The position of the money agent will require from you a half-day activity. Your work will consist in transferring money among our clients.
Job scheme will comprise the following: 1. You get a check by mail. 2. Than you cash 3. You transfer the money to our clients Your earning will be 8 % of the amount of each check. Additionally we are going to effect you $ 1500 as your salary at the end of each month. Required skills to start this job: - Honesty, responsibility and promptness in operations; - Prior customer service experience is a good benefit; - Internet and e-mail skills; Experience in online work; - Good communications skills This job will allow you to: - Get financial independence working only 3-5 hours per day; - Get additional free time; - Efficiently work at home; General requirements: - Ability to create good administrative reporting; - Prior customer service experience is a good benefit; - Effective interaction with customers; - Willingness to take the responsibility to set up and achieve goals;
In addition we will be able to offer you $ 2500 as a monthly payment after completion of the trial period. In case you are interested in the position, please answer this message. We will get in touch with you within 2 working days.
I should take it and try to scam them instead. Too bad they already have my home address since it's on my resume. I don't want to be killed by the Nigerian mafia.
P: oh your dick doesnt work P: spit it back out JoJoBoi: what JoJoBoi: WHAT P: yeah JoJoBoi: huh JoJoBoi: what are you talking about P: it spit the cd back out P: tried to boot but couldnt JoJoBoi: you know you typed dick P: OMG P: hahaha P: soooooorrrrrrryyyy P i meant disc P: hahaha omg soooooooooo soooooooooryy!!!!!! JoJoBoi: wow this is a new side of you ive never seen JoJoBoi: i didnt know you could be so raunchy P: i was typing with one hand JoJoBoi: and what were you doing with the other? JoJoBoi: HAHAHA P: while trying to put the cd back in the case P: OMG
I've realized that I've been increasingly honest and blunt these days. Even though I know some people don't like what I say or that it could be the wrong time to say it, I just don't care. It feels great to say what's on my mind and how I feel. I hate it when people play games with me, it is a waste of my time and energy. I am tired of people talking BS and lying about what they have. I am tired of people that are fake. I am tired of putting up with people that I frankly don't care about. Yeah, I know I sound mean and selfish but ultimately I am being honest with myself which is a great feeling. I want to be straightforward with people and I want them to be the same with me. I guess underneath all the fluff, there really is not much to talk about.
Many things that I do, see and hear about are feeling trivial. At first, I thought I was just becoming jaded. The truth is, none of the things I or most people do 80% of the time even matter. BUT there is that 20% out there and I want to do that 80% of the time. The million dollar question is what is that 20%. Of course my 20% is not exactly the same as someone elses. For myself, I know what I want but I can't have it and it is not easily replaceable. I feel like I am wasting time filling a void until something meaningful comes along. Maybe I just need to gather my thoughts and refocus.
PS I hate talking about what I write on xanga on aim and in person. I've never said this before but now you know so don't bring it up. I write because I feel like writing and I want it to stay here and only here.
